After 11 years of marriage, having a wedding videography business and officiating ceremonies, there is a LOT that I would change about my wedding. Chances are you feel the same way even if you’ve only been married for a short time. Styles change from year to year, from dresses to bridal party sizes to cakes and venues. Since no one ever plans on getting married more than once, you make the choices that best reflect you at the time of your wedding.
My own wedding was wonderful – a church wedding in my hometown, a reception at a hall (in another town) and pictures at a park along the route between venues. Mike (my husband) and I had four attendants each and tried not to request too much of them time-wise or financially. We were young, I was 21 and he 24. We needed the financial help of our parents for a wedding otherwise it would have been a city-hall wedding for us. We were very grateful to have so much parental support. At the time it was the perfect wedding, but if I was to get married now, at 32 years old, it would be drastically different.
Starting with size – from 165 guests probably down to less than 100. Maybe at an inn or a restaurant? I no longer care what my dress would look like. I would have a second hand dress or even borrow one. Would I have a dance? I don’t know. Would I have a big sit down meal…maybe. The idea of an intimate home ceremony surrounded by immediate family and the closest of friends sounds fantastic. I never got to choose the content of my ceremony since I had a church wedding. It was a lovely service performed by a minister whom I had known most of my life. But if you hire an officiant with All Seasons…ahem…such as me…..the couple can completely control the content of THEIR day.
So I’m curious…what would you change about your wedding?